You’d think we’d have learnt by now, yet still we continue to do it. We stress ourselves out needlessly. The fact is most of the things we worry about never happen.
Really, you should worry less.
Part way through the school year one of my sons wanted to join the after-school football club. My wife wrote a letter to the school secretary requesting that he be added to the waiting list; the demand had always exceeded the available places.
As we walked to school I reminded him that he needed to hand it in to the school office. “Ohhh Dad! Can’t you do it Dad?” It was obvious the fear of something unknown was troubling him. This was beyond what he was comfortable with. “No,” I replied, “you can do it.”
He was not so easily persuaded, but I had decided. “You want to play football, you can take the letter to the office.”
Life often throws up a challenging scenarios; the potential for disaster seems to grow as we recount the “probable” outcomes or with each new revelation from the media. We fear the possibility of what might be. Really it is the unknown that we fear most.
Sulking and moaning my son made his way toward the office entrance, but then turned back. “Hurry up, or you’ll be late to class!” Onward he slunk. I loitered in the vicinity to ensure he followed through. From a distance I could see him hand over the letter and wait as the secretary read it. “Okay my lovely, that’s fine,” sang out her cheery voice.
As he galloped past me and round to the student’s entrance our eyes met; “That wasn’t so bad, eh? Have a good day, I’ll see you later!” He gave me a sheepish smile, “Seya Dad!” and ran into class.
What are you fearful of today? Is your fear actually founded, or is it based on an unknown possibility? Chances are, it won’t be as bad as you think.