How do I know I can trust you?

Helicopter rescue

“Trust me!” The howling winds swallow the words as another wave pounds the rock to which the terrified swimmer clings. The winchman lowers the line, little by little; rescue is imminent. But the rock seem more secure, safer even, than the arms of a rescuer hanging precariously over the wild…

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1 book, 20 questions, a better marriage

Today is a big, exciting day! I’ve been looking forward to it for quite a long time. Today is the day I officially announce the launch of my first full book – 20 Questions To Make Your Marriage Even Better. When you’re heading down the traditional publishing route the publisher…

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The loneliest place on earth?

A crowded room can be the most lonely place on earth. Living in one of the great cities in the world is no antidote to isolation. In close proximity to many, yet alone. Why? We lack connection. Conversation is important but there are other vital elements. The myriad social media…

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1 question to radically change your day

How do you react when things are taken out of your control? I usually just go along with it. Perhaps I lack the self-confidence to make a fuss. Perhaps it’s a resignation that “whatever will be will be.” My surgeon said I required a side-room. Excellent, space to myself and…

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When you need tough love

Punch in the face

In hospital there was a man in the bed across from me who annoyed me. He appeared to be a stereotypical football fan. Not only loud-mouthed and bombastic, he was more concerned with his team’s performance than the more pressing matters of life… such as why he was in hospital…

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Too stressed to care?

It had seemed a long way off, but suddenly it was here; my next round of surgery would be in about 24 hours. I was becoming increasingly anxious as the day progressed. Just before 5pm the phone rang; the hospital admissions clerk informed me that they could not guarantee me…

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Memories are made with people

Memories. Travelling back through time collecting photographs. People, places, moments. Images pinned to a board. Each photograph a reminder, a milestone on my journey. The pin board a map of my life, a brief history of me. Looking at a “history of me” it is easier to see how far…

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Do you suffer from self-sufficiency?

I am self-sufficient. As a child I was taught to have a can-do attitude. If it needed doing I would have a go. A problem was an opportunity to learn a new skill. Our society teaches self-sufficiency as a virtue but there is a danger in independence. It breeds pride…

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